Hello and welcome to the official season one trailer for the You Know How to Live show. My name is Kate Hammer and man alive am I excited to get this thing off the ground and to share it with you.
A few years ago my husband started using this phrase every time he saw somebody doing something exceptional- just an out of the ordinary observation of someone living their best life- he’d look at them and he’d say, “you know how to live”.
It’s always something that deserves a call out. It could be a 30-something reading a newspaper or a novel on an actual park bench- like who does that? Or a group of long time friends who after several years still manage to get together for a monthly potluck, or maybe a 70 year old woman out on the lake at 6am on a stand up paddle board looking out at the sunrise. These people are living. They have something figured out that we instinctively admire- something we want in on if we’re being honest. Because life is just so generously full of back to back challenge and grind. I mean how many times a day do we, if we’re fulfilling our responsibilities, find ourselves up to our elbows in tasks we either can’t stand or feel neutral about?
We are so fascinated by people who seem to have it figured out, aren’t we? And that doesn’t mean we assume these people have perfect lives or that no harm comes their way- the tough stuff, the boring stuff- it’s all wickedly inevitable. Yet, some of us are eating lunch in front of a stacked email inbox Monday through Friday, and some- with equal ability and opportunity are managing to merrily walk around the neighborhood at that same noon hour, maybe with a friend, maybe with a podcast just soaking up the sun. And you know what? You can do it, too. In fact, I say this to my clients all the time. You can do it, if you do it. You are more resourced than any previous generation who has come before you. You can do it, if you do it.
So that is why when I decided to create a show about people showing up and doing the thing, I knew the name had to be this phrase: You Know To Live.
I mean haven’t you heard this yet? Motivation is not the thing to chase. Spend five minutes paying attention to some of the greatest psychology and lifestyle influencers of our time like Cheryl Dweck, David Goggins, Angela Duckworth, Todd Henry, Brene Brown, Eve Rodsky, Adam Grant, and you will walk away knowing you cannot rely on motivation. Not for anything. Well, not for anything that lasts!
So this is my hope for this show. I want to make it accessible to you- applied psychology, habit theory, and the very best anecdotal advice and insights with the vehicle of enjoyable conversation with the authors, experts and wizards who dare to suggest what will work if motivation won’t. We want to know, right? So let’s talk about it.
Now maybe you know me and if you do, cool! Hi! But in case you don’t, let me tell you why me. Why am I making this show happen? Okay, here’s the story- When I left corporate and opened my consulting business back in 2016 there was one aspect of the work that lit me up like nothing else ever had- it was the coaching. It still is. Getting someone connected to their why and set up with systems that deliver traction- oh man, that is the stuff for me. Very deeply, for as long as I can remember I have been a prototyper, a maker. I love creating and connecting. And I love drawing those things out of others, too. It’s magic to me. Just pure joy.
Confession: I read like a maniac, audiobooks are my love language, and I absolutely adore learning from psychologists and truly anyone who studies or shares about how to thrive. Academics? Yes, I love them. But honestly if you have a story of overcoming- of finding a way through the wilderness, you 100% have my ear. And while I absolutely enjoy my alone time, there is one thing that I am endlessly passionate about sharing with others-- and it’s this: you can do it, if you do it. You can be that person who does the thing. So let’s do this- follow, subscribe! Hit whatever button you need to hit to get your reminder so that you can walk away episode after episode feeling like You Know How to Live.